Important conversations to have before getting married
For better or worse, or ‘till complicated conversations do you part?
What’s the most important thing on your agenda when you’re about to get married?
No, it should not be the argument about whether or not you should be writing your own vows – it’s a bit trickier than that. Many awkward conversations may arise – such as, should you choose to live closer to your family than his. But that’s a headache for another day.
There are, however, many really important conversations you should be having with your spouse-to-be before tying the knot. So, keep reading…
Yikes, this is a tough one! Financial problems are one of the most common reasons for divorce, and it can be uber uncomfortable to talk about too. Everyone comes from a unique background. If your partner is more reluctant about discussing financial matters while you are much more open, it’s important to agree on the ground rules. The topic needs to be addressed. Will you share a bank account for day-to-day expenses or will you keep completely separate accounts? It’s much better to talk about this before the wedding so that you avoid differences of opinion going forward. Also, consider the lifestyle you each dream of and how you would feel about combining your incomes.
Don’t avoid a discussion about children – whether you wish to have kids and how many. Never assume your partner is on the same page as you. By discussing this beforehand, you may just prevent a decision you will later regret.
If you do not share the same religious views or culture, how will this impact future conversations and decisions? And it may become especially tricky when there are kids involved – will they be subjected to mum or dad’s traditions or beliefs? This may not seem like a big deal now, but a mutual understanding and prior agreement on issues pertaining to religion and family values, will help prevent potential misunderstandings. In a country as diverse as ours, it’s common to have interracial and intercultural relationships. Make sure you talk about the kind of culture to which you aspire.
Health, home, car and business insurance from a reputable company is essential – no compromise! If each of you have a car and you have separate car insurancepolicies, should you consolidate your policies with one trusted company? You may find that there are discounts when you do. Apply for an online insurance quotetoday to find out how you can save and live your way.
By following the above guidelines you’ll be able to say “I do” without the stress of deciding who is expected to buy groceries, vacuum the house, cook or pay the gardener. With these important conversations covered, you can step into your have dream marriage, relaxed and as prepared as can be.